Dallas Morning News
If happiness is a choice, then why doesn't everyone simply make that choice?
Robert A. Emmons answers that question in his new book, Thanks! How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier. He suggests specific techniques for implementing a consistent lifestyle of gratitude. And it is a choice, but it takes practice, he adds.
After years of work studying the subject scientifically, Emmons, a psychologist at the University of California, Davis, offers the findings he says demonstrate that gratitude can pro-duce a healthier, happier life- style.
While some people may view happiness as merely a vague feeling, Emmons believes that one's perceptions can be mani- pulated to achieve contentment. He spoke recently with reporter Anita Curtis by e-mail. Here are excerpts.
Q: How does one look at gratitude as a science?
A: Science means that we apply scientific tools — observation and measurement — to the examination of, in this case, the feelings, perceptions and expressions of gratitude. It means that we replace armchair philosophy and moral rhetoric regarding gratitude with empirical observation of what gratitude is and the results of what it does in people's lives.
Q: Were there findings that surprised you?
A: Yes, the physical-health findings. That people keeping gratitude journals slept 1/2 hour more per evening, woke up more refreshed and exercised 33 percent more each week compared with persons who are not keeping these journals.
Q: Is gratitude related to one's religious beliefs?
A: Gratitude is at the core of all the major religions. Virtually every religion emphasizes gratefulness or thanksgiving. It is part of the ethical foundations of world religions which state that people are morally obligated to give thanks to their God and to each other.
In traditional Judaism, there is a custom of reciting 100 blessings a day. Thankfulness for everything is appropriate in Judaism because all things come from God in the Hebrew worldview, and therefore Jewish life is filled with this recognition. A prayer is said upon hearing good or bad news, and God is praised for everything. In this way, a divine perspective on life is kept. In Christianity — gratitude is the core of the gospel — thanks be to God for his indescribable gift of Jesus Christ.
Q: It's easy to be grateful for good things that come to us. How can we also be grateful in times of loss?
A: We realize that there is more to life than our losses, and gratitude for life gives us a realistic perspective by which to view our losses and not succumb to victimhood or despair. The ability to perceive the elements in one's life and even life itself as gifts would appear essential if we are to transform tragedies into opportunities.
Q: How can negative emotions be replaced with positive ones? Is it really just a matter of choosing which to focus on?
A: This is true. For example, one simply cannot be relaxed and stressed at the same time, nor grateful and resentful at the same time. Relaxation drives out anxiousness and vice-versa. You have to gain control over your emotional destiny by choosing to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. But you just can't think happy thoughts or grateful thoughts, because emotions follow from particular thought patterns. So, perceiving life as a gift or things in one's life as gifts is the royal road to gratitude.